Turning stress into performance

Turning stress into performance
(Designer Bubble with help from Dr M.Brusman, Psychologist and Executive Coach)

Core beliefs…are these hurting you?

•Making mistakes are terrible

•Every problem has a perfect solution

•Everything is within my control

•I cannot change the way I am or think

•People should like me

•There is not enough time

Learned Optimism

•Stress resilient people share an optimistic “explanatory style”

•Change your internal dialogue

•Troubles are temporary

•Troubles are not permanent unless you keep thinking about them

•Troubles are not universal, they are specific

•Take the credit when things go right, share the troubles and give your team a chance to work it out with you.

•Sharing troubles gives others the opportunity to learn, help you and not get into the same troubles themselves.

Techniques:

1.Bubbling: Draw bubbles and write in each bubble the subject on your mind

2.Prioritise each bubble

3.Attach a buddy to each bubble if you need

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Change Resilience

Change is inevitable, here are some strategies that I found useful from Dr Brusman.

Title: Change Resiliance
(Designer Bubble with help from Dr M.Brusman, Psychologist and Executive Coach)

Change comes as an enemy only to those who have lost the art of accepting it as a friend - Tagore

Change

•Happens

•You may not get all the information you want

•It may happen quickly

Techniques:

1.What are potential changes at work?

2.What are potential improvements at work?

3.Can we prepare for these  changes? (Remember that continuous improvement builds your resilience to change because you will learn to adapt proactively)

 

Stages of Fright

1.Denial: This can’t be happening…

2.Resistance: Anger, loss, blaming

3.Exploration: Seeing possibilities

4.Commitment: Focus, Vision, Action

Change Master Class

1.Remember your objective and who you are.  Change will happen, but you will be okay.  Use your strengths

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2.Develop adaptive skills:

1.Goal setting

2.Getting support, working with others

3.Recognising opportunities

4.Creating action plans

5.Contingency planning

•“We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.” 
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

 

 

Cleaned up

So either I smell or I leave a trail of dirt like that Pigpen character from Charlie Brown but I have been stalked by cleaners with brooms for a few months now.

This is an amazing phenomena considering the area of floor space available to be cleaned at shopping centres, public spaces and the like without requiring me to move to make way for the cleaner.

I can't really...always happen to be in the exact spot at the exact time they have their allocated time to clean that...space...

Now I've graduated....to cleaning staff stalking me with cleaning MACHINERY!!

1) Note happy cleaner keeping his distance cleaning a large empty space (note there are many spaces with no humans in the way to interrupt his cleaning flow...)

2) Exhibit 2: Oh look they found me and it's time to clean me out

Exhibit 3: Im not joking about them having a mandate to wipe me out...after doing 3 circles around my seat...he takes out my feet (tries to anyway)

I see stupid people

This picture so accurately reflects how I'm feeling right now

Thoughts going through my head:

1) Are people really that rude?
2) Do I smell bad today?
3) I see stupid people everywhere
4) Am I just irritable because I got woken up by some weirdo who's phone has decided to call me every night at midnight for the last 4 days? (I actually think this ones a machine problem as its from their office phone and there's no way they'd be there at that time inclusive or weekends. And no, it's not someone I really want to associate with so I'd rather try to find a way to block this call than have to talk to them about it).

What happened?
Hmmmm few things, starting off with the food tray caving in and me leaving my lunch in a mess on the floor whilst battling to open the door holding my bag and lunches for the rest of my colleagues.  I get the door open so I can put down everything and while I look for a mop, in the 3.4seconds that this takes, tsomeone's made a complaint that they saw someone drop food and leave a mess (even people with a dead car battery stalled in the middle of the road don't get that's much attention that quickly).

So I grab the closest pile of tissues and start cleaning the mess up less they come and arrest me...meanwhile the messengers bringing the complaint to me stand around me and watch me ckan up the mess...and then tell me not to clean up the mess for they have called the cleaners..and I shouldnt get my hands dirty?????? so, lets wait to get more complaints by more well meaning busy body humans that I spend my entirety choosing to smash food everywhere...

Now people, nice of you to help?

Nobody has reported the broken door or the smashes window for a month. I've made the last 4 maintenance call requests for every broken thing needing maintenance. So...this...sucks...to have someone complain that I would actually intentionally leave a mess and walk away from it.

Times like this really test my patience with humanity.

I get it, whoever complained was a good upstanding civilian doing their bit for the world.

I get it, it's nice to know that of ever you needed urgent medical attention, the fastest way to get the troops running is to drop food everywhere (at least in my building).

I get it, it's a little thing and I shouldn't get irritated but...I am.  When you do your hardest to be an upstanding citizen and socially responsible, these sort of events really make you wonder why you bother trying.

So, of course, in my ongoing attempt at continuing self improvement...I seek help from the Internet.

Good old wiki to the rescue: http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Less-Annoyed-With-People

But reading through the multiple websites, one got me thinking about attempting little bursts of kindness.  Focus is on the "little" especially when I don't feel so inclined at the moment to doing anything nice for anyone (everyone's evil right now)...

Kinda like the slow, self-help process towards any good change or habit...small...manageable chunks..focus on small immediate gains and hopefully I find my faith in human kindness again.

This week's menu looks to be lots of gym to vent my irritable-ness (new word I just made up), and focus on one nice thing to one people a day to start with.

I'm going to throw in meditation and positive affirmations too as the way I'm feeling, it's going to take some added ammunition.

Credit to all the people who were kind and nice to me today...sorry for my human nature to only focus on the ugly and meaner.

Wonder how I'll go....